Bryanna Spanking Males
What is it that makes us a spanko?
When it comes to being a spanko I don’t think there is a basic idea that makes everyone tick so we are all spanko’s for different reasons.
For me the thing that gets me all worked up about spanking is the control of one person over another. I have always said that I hate being spanked while it is happening but the idea of actually submitting to the spanking will later turn me on.
The idea is the same when it comes to spanking someone else in that my dominant side comes out and I like the control over the person more so than the physical aspect of spanking.
Some people enjoy the physical aspect more so or atleast as much as the mental and for them it is the visual concept of cheeks bouncing and skin burning that gets them worked up.
I think that most people like my husband Lance garner a little pleasure from both sides although he leans more to the physical side because he is a 100% ass man and enjoys nothing more than the physical part of spanking.
I thought that since this blog is normally just posts about my life and nothing really about you guys that I would post this to see if any of you wanted to post here about your idea of spanking and what turns you on about it!
I love spanking because I like to turn a bottom red. I spanked a couple dancers at the Gold Club and once got spanked by a dancer at the Doll House. I live in FL and there doesn’t seem like alot of spankos in my area! I also like to see how red my bottom can get. I have my 10 yr reunion in June, I hope to spank some of my naughty classmates. Hope it goes well. Hank
So your appeal to spanking is more physical which I think is much more common with guys. Thanks for always commenting on my blog Hank because you make posting alot more fun. Now if we can get 50 more of you we will be doing great! Well actually we only need 48 more because we do have Keith and John as well and they have always been fantastic. UUUUmmmm that means I need a response from both of you!
It depends on the type of spanking. At a spanking party, the spankings are fun and social. A way to interact with friends and share this thing we do. Then there are erotic spankings where the fun is in the sexual play… the touching, the build-up from pain to pleasure. Discipline is a totally different dynamic. Not a type of ‘fun’… but there is a powerful exchange of trust and it can be very rewarding to see actual progress towards goals that will lead to a happier life.
Then even within a specific type of spanking there can be times that things lean more to the physical. There is a rush in a bottom being bared and reddened… because that’s the mood you’re in. The next time though, the focus might be more on the mental/emotional side. The exchange of trust, going on a little journey that isn’t fun to start… but has so worked by the time it is over.
So overall, it’s the physical, mental and emotional that works. It’s ALL there! It depends on the situation as to how much of each comes into play in a specific spanking.
Great question,
~Todd & Suzy
Great answer because it is in fact all there when it comes to spanking just as you described!
Hi Bryanna,
Great question.
Spankings appeal to me at many levels. I can honestly say that there isn’t an aspect I don’t enjoy. Even the pain, and even when it’s more than I want, has a place.
I love the tension of the build-up, that moment of truth where I must willingly submit to my fate, the growing excitement of the warm-up, the intense, spicy here-and-now reality of the spanking itself, the cool-down massage, the delicious aftercare, the urgent lovemaking, and that fun little reminder every time I sit.
The attraction is physical to be sure. And mental aspect is always with me. But there is also a spiritual connection between my husband and me that is renewed and reinforced each time I accept his sizzling gift.
My love of spanking is more than sexual. It goes to the very core of my identity. It’s a part of who I am. I am grateful to have these interests and experiences. The message I try to convey to people who are getting started is that consensual adult spanking is not only an acceptable lifestyle choice, it can be positively fantastic.
So please mark me down for all of the above.
Oh wow Bonnie you should be a book writer!
Hi Bryanna,
Just found your blog and love it! This is a great question. I have a long answer I’ll try to keep shorter.
I was a spanko as just a kid, and I think a lot of the same things still push my buttons about spanking today. I like the drama of it. The whole story. Of course it was always about getting in trouble, and not about pleasure at all. I hated getting spanked, and though part of me really wanted to see or hear it happening to someone else, I felt sorry for them. Getting a spanking was painful and embarrassing. As I got older, I didn’t want to have to follow rules and stuff, and spanking represented being under strict control. But a spanko’s a spanko so I couldn’t help but enjoy the idea.
I like the idea of punishment, where there’s a story about getting in trouble, and that’s the reason why we’re getting a spanking. As Bonnie wrote, there’s all that tension in the build-up. I like the authority that the spanker has to spank. It’s real domestic dominance and submission like parents and teachers had over their charges. I enjoy the power in spanking someone, and doing it because it’s for their own good.
As I grew up, I started enjoying all the physical aspects of spanking. A bare bottom spanked really red and hot, and the vulnerable positions that expose the spankee. The way different implements sound and feel. Stuff like that that lots of spankos like.
But I still want all that drama of the story. Traditional, old-fashioned punishment used today for adult naughty boys and girls. Why it’s happening. The anticipation. How the story ends, which is well after the actual spanking itself.
Cheers,
Dana
I love all of these answers! I am glad that you found my blog Dana and I hope you share your responses with all of us as much as possible. Well written and thought out answers like yours here makes any spanking blog much better!